Esto Vir / Be a Man

A Talk by Fr. Ermatinger

Praying Man, Jacek Malczewski, 1902-5

Outline of Talk

Esto Vir Be a Man

  • Prayers: 0:00-0:55
  • Introduction to Talk: 0:55-5:14
    • St. Paul’s Council “Act Manly”
    • Antidotes Of Broken Manliness 1:11-5:14
      • 1990’s Statistic Common For American Prisoners: 1:11-1:44
        • #1 = Fatherless
        • #1 for Death Row = Porn Addiction
      • Porn Addiction: 1:44-2:26
      • Working In Germany after Ordination 6 Years: 2:26-3:56
        • “Gay” Man
          • Father Abandonment
      • Swiss Study: 3:56-5:14
        • Role of Father’s Faith in Children’s Faith
          • Father is True Spiritual Leader of the Family
  • Genesis: Adam’s Tasks: 5:14-6:33
    • To Till/Cultivate
    • To Protect/ Keep Vigil
      • Used to Describe Priest in Leviticus
    • Father is Priest of the Domestic Church: 5:55-6:33
      • Disorder Otherwise 
  • Learning How to Be a Man: 6:33-9:26
    • Starts By Being a Child of God:
    • Negative Examples
      • Industry of Guys Telling Males How to Be a Man: 6:48-7:40
        • Vanity / False Bravado (Be Like Me)
          • Rather, Be Like Christ
      • Wallowing in Self-Pity: 7:40-8:05
        • Fruit of the Feminist Movement
      • C.S. Lewis Abolition of Man: 8:05-9:26
        • Neglect of Formation of Passions in Young People
          • Swollen
            • Head
            • Appetite
          • No Chest.
      • Where Are the Men?
  • Primordial Role of Man in Forming His Children: 9:26-10:20
    • Girls See Dad as the Type of Man to Marry
    • Boys See Dad as The Man He Is to Be
    • Domestic Priest
  • To Cultivate / Culture / Cult: 10:20-14:22
    • Being Rooted
    • Orientated Towards Heaven
    • We (Americans) Lack a Culture
      • Not a Problem but an Opportunity: 12:07-12:48
      • Evangelization Should Be Easier for Us Than the First Christians: 12:48-13:33
      • Use the Rubble Western Civilization to Build: 13:33-14:22
        • Men Are Called to Build
        • Sandcastles on Beaches: 14:02-14:22
  • St. Paul: Ephesians 6: Armor of God: 14:22-46:27
    • This is God’s Work: Have Confidence: 15:55-16:59
      • Armor of Greek Light Infantry
    • Confidence in Divine Help: 16:59-18:34
      • God Wants to Help
      • God Can Help
        • Lack of Trust from Bad Experience of One’s Dad: 17:38-18:34
    • Loins Girt: Passions Under Control: 18:34-30:22
      • Especially Concuspicable Passions
        • Grace Helps to Reorder Passions
      • Human Sexuality Requires Matrimony to Be Lived in a Holy Way
        • Man Is Made for Woman and Woman Is Made for Man: 20:06-23:31
          • Real Vocation Crisis is Matrimonial: 20:52-23:31
            • Fear of Commitment
            • Fear of Kids
              • Give God the Opportunity to Create New Life
              • Children Are God’s Not the Parents
            • Contraception is Failure: 21:44-22:43
            • Dysfunction of Sexual Pleasure as End: 22:43-23:31
      • Aristotle: Acts Follow Essence: 23:31-24:16
        • To Separate Ends from Nature Returns to Original Sin
      • Thomas: Sin is Against Order of Reason: 24:16-25:40
        • Thomas Capital Vices: 24:53-25:40
          • Bring Many Consequences
      • Aside: Holland Banning Public Funerals: 25:40-27:37
        • Opt for Spiritual Joy: 27:05-27:37
      • Virtue and Prayer: Two Tracks of One Train: 27:37-30:22
        • Virtue is Remote Preparation for Prayer
          • Progress in Spiritual Life Makes Virtue Easier
          • Easier is More Pleasing to God
        • Healthy Enmeshment Between the Soul and God: 29:18-29:38
        • Moment of Temptation is Opportunity to Prove One’s Love for Christ: 29:38-30:22
          • Marian Devotion Makes This Easy: 30:05-30:22
    • Breastplate of Justice: 30:22-37:19
      • How a Man Relates with Temporal Goods
      • Disorder of Avarice: 30:58-31:53
        • Position/Authority/Things as Ends
      • Solutions for Avarice
        • Gratitude: 31:53-32:32
          • Gratitude For
            • Good Things
            • AND Crosses
            • Blessings and Sufferings
        • Liberality: 32:32-33:09
          • Giving Others What is Owned Oneself from Justice
          • Intentional Detachment from Things
        • Magnificence: 33:09-35:50
          • Possible for Wealthy Only
          • Great Enterprises at Great Expenses
          • More Time Spent with Our Lord:34:18-35:50
            • The Easier Poverty of Spirit: Christ Becomes Our Treasure
            • Christ Strips Away Things We Thought Were Important
        • Certain Directing Virtue of Prudence: 35:50-36:53
          • Never Meant to Be Satisfied in this Life: 36:53-37:19
    • Sandals of the Peace of the Gospel: 37:19-39:06
      • Foundation to Bring About Great Enterprise
        • To Bring the Gospel Anywhere
      • Encouraging Boys to Do Great Things for Christ: 38:01-39:06
        • Men Need to Do Great Things for Boys to See
    • Shield of Faith: 39:06-42:58
      • Protective Tool for Purity of Heart
        • Role of the Heart
          • Christ is the Real Treasure
            • Furnace of the Heart
      • For the Pure Man, All Things Are Pure: 40:06-42:58
        • How One Sees / Does Things is Pure As it is Done Through Christ
        • Achieved Through: 40:43-42:58
          • Charity
          • Chastity
          • Love of Truth and Orthodoxy of Faith
        • Look Upon One With the Eyes of Christ
    • The Helmet of Hope: 42:58-44:43
      • Aeneid as Pagan Example of Hope: 43:03-44:43
    • Full Armor is Needed / All Virtues Required: 44:43-46:27
      • Dominant Vice Exists if Not All Virtues Are Present: 44:49-46:27
        • Urgent to
          • Recognize Dominate Vice
          • Work on Virtue + Culture:
  • Need for Boys to See Fathers Interacting with Other Men: 46:27-47:37
    • Troops of St. George: 46:45-47:37
      • Masculinity that Is
        • Hierarchical
        • Rooted in Christ

— Fr. Ermatinger